7 Ssecrets of Happy Relationships

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7 Ssecrets of Happy Relationships
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I couldn’t understand why my parents had such a wonderful, long lasting relationship, and I was unable to maintain even one relationship for longer than 8 years.

My parents had been married for 66 years at the time that my Mother passed away last year, and, apart from the beginning of their marriage when they were separated by my father serving abroad during the 2nd World War, they had only been apart for one week during the whole of their marriage, when my Mother took me on holiday after my divorce to try to cheer me up. She was miserable for the whole of that week as she missed my father so much, and so she wasn’t really much good at cheering me up, in fact I spent so much time trying to cheer her up that I did forget my own misery, but that hadn’t been the purpose of our holiday.

Over the years I had struggled to understand just why I couldn’t maintain a happy intimate relationship. I wondered if it was the kind of men that I was attracted to, or whether there was something wrong with me. No matter what I seemed to do I just could not make it work for me.

Even though I was a successful and respected Psychologist, and an ‘expert’ in helping people solve problems in their life or come to terms with life changes, personality and emotional difficulties or family or work conflicts, still I could not make my own relationships work.

Sometimes I thought that I was not setting my sights high enough because partners turned out to be lacking in some way. I wondered if, when selecting a partner, I was not using the right cues to their personality because I was so excited to be in the relationship I was blinded by their interest in me. Maybe I was not good at setting boundaries because they seemed to treat me so badly. Other times I decided that I wasn’t patient enough with partners, but really I knew that this wasn’t so because I was endlessly patient with my clients and their problems.

At other times I believed that I was just not good at choosing a partner, perhaps putting looks before character or charm before intelligence. Try as I may, it always came back to blaming one thing or another. Whatever I blamed for my lack in relationship staying power in my mind it always seemed to be my fault for a failing inside me, rather than the fault of the other person doing bad things to me. I loaded on the blame and self-loathing to no avail. All this did was make me feel worse about myself. My ego took tumble after tumble and I just gave up for quite some time.

Then one day I had a brainwave. I decided to put myself through the same programme that I put my clients through and analyse exactly where I was going wrong. I had decided that once I had done that I would then put myself through a self-development system that would change the way I thought about my life and the people in it. Wow, did that give me some realisations about myself.

It took me some time to discover the answers to my quest and to work through the self-inflicted programme, testing out what would work and what wouldn’t work. (Lucky I am a Psychologist and know all about testing out theories) Eventually I hit on the 7 secret ingredients that are necessary to ensure the success of a relationship and I wrote this report to help other readers that ‘shortcuts’ all my months and months of enquiry and research. Now, I am presenting this to you in my report ‘7 Secrets Of Happy Relationships’. Please Read On.